Somewhere in San Francisco we lost our wedding venue.
We had a soft date booked for a barn in May 2011.
We were pretty excited about it.
And then the owner sent us an email trying to pressurise us into making a decision. Like now. Amazing how a bit of pressure makes you examine what you really want.
The stickler for us became the chairs.
The venue wanted to charge individually for each chair we used (and each set of cutlery, glass, plate and so on). Which prompted us jokingly to have discussions like ‘well, my Papa needs a seat’, ‘well, fine but he can’t have a knife’.
Now maybe this is standard but it didn’t feel ‘us’. We want somewhere relaxed and informal. Casual and fun. Paying individually for chairs is none of those things. So we backed out – sent them a polite we’re letting it go email – and then went to a lovely wee coffee shop in the Mission.
All fine and good. Except we now had no venue.
So at the weekend we put a lot of time into some venue searching – and even went to visit some. But it was more depressing than exciting. Everywhere seemed to want a lot of money for places that weren’t quite right.
And then we realised something. We were doing this all wrong.
We are not conventional wedding people.
So we should stop looking at conventional wedding places.
(By that, I mean places that ‘do’ weddings. As a barn is probably not most people’s idea of a conventional wedding place!)
Seems obvious now but it hadn’t occurred to us.
So we’re back on track – we have a plan and we’re super-excited. (Honestly, it’s all I can do to stop myself from telling everyone what our plan is!)
It’s nice to feel like we’re in charge of our wedding again, instead of it being in charge of us.