Weddingnesday… and the not so mini meltdown

8 Dec

All it took was a single sheet of paper.

A pen and a calculator.

Some rough sums.

And a growing
overwhelming
feeling
that it
just
was
not
us.

It was too BIG.

Too serious.
Too complicated.
Too much of a Wedding.

I got the fear.

The I want to get married
but do I want a wedding fear.

All our fine plans
for a simple day
seemed to fall away
as soon as family
were involved.

So we took a deep breath or two
and decided to go back to basics.

What did we want?

What was us?

What would
make us smile?

And suddenly
a few things seemed
clear again.

We needed
a new venue
for a start.

Somewhere simpler,
sweeter and more relaxed.

We think we’ve found it.

Which is such a relief
I want to give the person
who helped us find it
a huge, huge hug.

(I was honestly about to call it quits on the whole thing.)

So hopefully that’s the end of my not so mini meltdown
and the start of happier wedding planning.

Just don’t mention the catering.

****

(Image via fieldguided)

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15 Responses to “Weddingnesday… and the not so mini meltdown”

  1. Caroline 08/12/2010 at 10:14 PM #

    Oh sweetness, I feel for you! I certainly hit the ’emotional wreck’ stage a few times during wedding planning and good on you for staying true to yourselves! *pats Zoe and Hubby to be on the back*
    X

  2. Polly 08/12/2010 at 10:23 PM #

    Awww Zoe 😦 I hope you’re ok! You will get it sorted and I’m sure whatever happens it will be a perfect day! xx
    PS. Loving the snow on your blog by the way! Very festive!

  3. wellies & vogue 08/12/2010 at 10:36 PM #

    never mention the catering..

    i still cry over it – it’s one of the areas I had no control over and the cost was insane.

    how exciting to have made a change! as much as you can keep your spirits up.. where ever you get married and who ever is there with you – you are going to have the day of your lives!

    it’s magical.. i promise!

  4. loobyroux 08/12/2010 at 10:45 PM #

    family are great but you can have completely different tastes to them. im glad your feeling more relaxed. thats exactly how you should feel on your wedding day. i hope for the same on mine 🙂

  5. anna and the ring 08/12/2010 at 11:29 PM #

    I am so happy for you.

    Yay!

    • Alison Cross 09/12/2010 at 8:33 AM #

      Wonderful that you’ve had the courage to start moving towards the wedding YOU want. I basically, just let my mother have the wedding she wanted. It was fine, but it wasn’t really me. Maybe the next time around lol!

      AX

  6. Tonia 09/12/2010 at 8:41 AM #

    Oh yeah, weddings have a habit of doing that the minute families get involved! Glad to hear you’ve got over the Fear; stick to your vision and it will be a fabulous day!

  7. Charlotte 09/12/2010 at 9:19 AM #

    At the end of the day you are trying to organise a meaningful event so it is bound to bring stress/anxiety into the picture. Taking a step back as you have is a good plan! Sure you will have a fabulous wedding, all the more special for the trials and tribulations you went through to get there! Can’t wait to see pics 🙂 xx

  8. Danae 09/12/2010 at 10:14 AM #

    I’m soooo pleased to hear that the venue is working out! Very excited for you, and congratulations on having the courage (because it really does take courage) to have the wedding that YOU want!

  9. Jo 09/12/2010 at 1:03 PM #

    families are annoying like that – mine kept quiet all the way through the planning and then when the actual day arrived I was being dictated to left right and centre about what should and shouldn’t happen – nice of them! LIsten to the comments on here and do what you want to happen – the family that are chiming in their opinions have already had their shot at a their weddings (mostly) xx

  10. Hilsters 09/12/2010 at 1:22 PM #

    It’s our first wedding anniversary this sunday, we got married at the Atrium in Edinburgh last December and it was fablis! candle lit, xmas tree, champers and mulled wine, vera wang vintage dress and velvet cape, just what we both wanted. I hope now that you have found your venue yours will be absolutely perfect too x

  11. Lisa 09/12/2010 at 9:45 PM #

    Best of luck to you both! I love the fact you had the guts to change plans to ensure you stayed true to both your dreams. x

  12. mysparethoughts 10/12/2010 at 9:56 PM #

    Aww honey, I’m sorry to hear that you’ve been having wedding freak outs.
    Glad you’ve found a new venue that you both love. Overcoming these freakouts together was the best part of wedding planning for me.

  13. Louise 10/12/2010 at 10:53 PM #

    Sooo glad you’re feeling better! I’m not married but I can imagine the pressure! Everyone must be saying this, but keep remembering that it’s your day – do it your way xxxx

  14. andthenallithoughtaboutwasyou 11/12/2010 at 12:41 PM #

    I am pleased you are feeling better, I am not married. This being one of the reasons we are not our families are very interfering and I would and could not cope with it! But well done for doing what you want to do xx

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